Look at yourself through your own eye

The following is a story found in the Talmud: There was a man named Hassan. He had more wealth and power than most other people but was not satisfied with his life. Eventually, Hassan abandoned everything and became a disciple of a wise rabbi. Even though Hassan said that he had given up his previous life, since he continued to act a little too arrogant, the rabbi didn’t think that Hassan had fully divested himself of the pride that he had in himself from being rich.

One day, the rabbi instructed Hassan, “Hassan, go to the market, buy sheep intestines and carry them here on your shoulder.”
Hassan immediately ran to the market in the village and bought some intestines. But the moment he put them on his shoulder, his clothes were immediately soiled by them, and the mere thought of walking across the village back to the synagogue with his clothes such as they were made his face flush. But he had to do it. Seriously humiliated, Hassan made his way back to the synagogue. Upon seeing him, the rabbi immediately ordered him to go to the butcher’s to borrow a large pot. Hassan was upset that his mentor didn’t even give him time to change his clothes so he could avoid the embarrassment of passing through the village again looking the way he did. But he had to do it. So swallowing his pride, he made his way back through the village to the butcher’s, where with his head hung low, he borrowed a large pot.
As soon as he arrived back at the synagogue, the rabbi instructed him to go back to the market. But this time the rabbi said, “Ask around to see if anyone there saw a man carrying intestines on his shoulder, or a man who was carrying a large pot.”
Hassan returned to the market and asked the two questions as instructed. He was surprised to hear that when asked, people either said that they weren’t sure, or that they had not seen anyone doing those things.

When Hassan returned to the synagogue his mentor said,

“See? You were worried that people would be laughing at you for how you looked, but they weren’t even aware of you. The only person ashamed of you was yourself. And the only reason that you were ashamed is because you were focused too much on how other people think of you. From now on, do not look at yourself from other people’s point of view. Rather, look at yourself from only your own perspective.”

That night, the rabbi threw a huge party for dinner for his disciples, and when they were all gathered together, he said, “Everyone, please help yourself to some of this soup. It was made with Hassan’s pride and honor.”